Manifesting what you want is more than wishing. It seems to come very easily to some while others can’t seem to get near anything they want. The truth is we are all manifesting what we live with every day. The ones who seem to do it so easily are the ones who have been working on it consciously for a long time.
There are a few things we need to realize before we really get anything going. If you watched the secret you may have walked away thinking all you need to do is want something really bad and you will begin to attract it into your life through this change in your focus and attention. This, to a degree is true but there are things that will sidetrack you and there are things that will make you more effective. I was given an example of this years ago when we didn’t have the secret, we just had Goethe’s statement that “The moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforseen incidents and meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. “
Let’s say you are working for a national company and your goal is to become the vice president of marketing by such and such a date. You sit down and make a list of all of the things that you believe you will have to do in order to make this happen. You set goals for your department. You decide who will need to be in your corner and how to form the alliances necessary. They are going to require that you take the fast track and this will mean less time at home with your family. You will be working weekends and having to attend the quarterly conferences wherever they may be etc. The wheels are turning and this thought form is getting stronger, fueled by your desire and you are getting excited.
You realize that the company is headquartered in Los Angeles and that it is likely you will have to relocate, but you hate LA and don’t want to leave New York. I’m not moving to LA, no matter what… All of the sudden the brakes go on the wheels stop turning and you don’t know it but you have just derailed the train. Why? “I’m not gonna this, or that”. You have just decided you are not really willing to do whatever it takes after all. You got mushy and the universe does not run on mushy. It runs on commitment.
If you were willing, it may not have been necessary for you to move to LA. The plan may have worked out without it, but that is not the point. You fell into the half baked plot mode and out of commitment. All of the vision boards in the world and the best planning will not overcome the problem with intent. Intent is everything.
There are other factors involved here too. We say you live in the universe you create but it’s easy to argue against the principals involved here and say for instance, well I didn’t create the traffic jam that made me late which caused the loss of the account and subsequently, my job. I’m the victim of circumstance. Well, your decisions over time added up to a situation that meant if you lost that account your job was in jeopardy. You also didn’t make sure you got there no matter what. You didn’t create the wreck that day which slowed traffic, but you found it. You took that route and did it too late. Now, I’m making all of these circumstances up as I go just for illustration, but it sounds like things you’ve heard people experience and you know the guy who doesn’t miss that meeting too. It’s the decisions that stack up over time that lead to something like that.
Let’s say for arguments sake that my guy who missed his meeting did so because of a late plane flight delayed by a storm. That could not be his fault right? No, he did not create that last straw. He did create enough question and issue within his career that this was it and he was gone. If he had the right relations with the customer and his boss and his reputation was impeccable then the late flight would just have been an amazing story of what he overcame or didn’t overcome to be at that meeting. You are creating your life every day and you have been doing it forever. All of those other people were on that plane, and not all of them lost a job over the delay.
There is more. If we are trying simply to create something just like everyone else is creating, a decent job, or finding a place to live, then we are moving along with the stream so to speak. We are the creators of our lives but we are co-creating with everyone else that’s here too. If we want to create something extraordinary in our lives we need a lot more personal power and we have to be much better at creating.
I have had lots of jobs in my life and some of them have been pretty bad, but not in the last decade or so. I have been able to create some really good working conditions and carve out in some instances a position in a company that never really existed before. I get into whatever I do and do most things I am interested in pretty well. I just lost what was the best job I had ever had. I worked from home and made good money. The company was struggling and I fought like crazy to keep things going but I failed to generate enough work which is something I must have had a block about. I just don’t sell very well, and for the record that was not my job, but it fell to me.
I had a good salary and in these times it was going to be hard to replace. I was worried and thought about going back to being an independent contractor. I really didn’t want to but I know friends who do what I do and they were not nearly earning what I was earning. I was telling my wife and myself I was good at earning money and I deserved that salary and could replicate it but I honestly didn’t know how. I didn’t want a job like everyone else and the idea of a cubicle was killing me inside.
I didn’t know what I was going to do or what I should do and nothing was happening, and it was worrying me even though I believe in the teachings and what they tell me about not being concerned for the self. I hit a depression which in hind sight was a reliving of the losing of my job in April because now I was truly going to have to make a move I was not looking forward to.
Louise and I go to Ouray each year and do some high altitude hiking in some amazingly beautiful terrain. I decided that when I got back I had to call my old boss, now client and cut the cord. I still had his truck and he was paying for my phone. I was going to suck it up and look for work seriously. There was no more debate. I needed a job.
In my mind I created a situation I could live with. Office responsibilities, field responsibilities, some work from home. I would need to have a commission or bonus schedule so that I could affect my income and then I would not need to replicate the salary itself. I would start the Monday we returned from Ouray having recharged my batteries.
I did call Dennis, my ex-employer and still friend to make arrangements about the truck and I got an email from a friend that morning who I had not heard from in a while. He asked about a talk I was about to give and I told him in that conversation that I was looking for work. He had just been contacted by someone and forwarded me my first real lead. I contacted him and set up an interview for that Wednesday. Now I hope you know where this is going. It took a total of three weeks or so, but I started that job yesterday and It is going to be a really good fit. It met every criterion I set for myself and once I committed, it walked through my door on the first day. It was the only company I interviewed with although there were contacts with others.
I also have to say that I have a good reputation and an excellent background in my industry. I built that over many years. You don’t just get the dream job without working your butt off first. What needs to be recognized is that I had that reputation and background the week before but was not committed and nothing was going to walk through my door under those circumstances. Success is said to be the result of opportunity meeting preparation.
